June 30, 2019

twInception reflections

Reflections by the participants of project twInception

1. What did you learn from the discussion about the NEET youngsters?
“I learned that, there is so many NEETs and I can help them. I have learned how to speak with them
through coaching and help them make a decision through dilemma and solution walk. Also I can at least
inform them about internship, coaching programs, and stuff like that.”

2. What did you discover about yourself & learn for your professional use during the coaching
“This method doesn’t really work on me. Don’t like to open up in front of people I don’t know. I didn’t
have a problem to solve, so we also couldn’t find solution. I felt a little bit uncomfortable and I think that
it can work on somebody but not everybody.”
“I found out that it is easier to have a conversation with certain people, but you in particular in personal
matters cannot be open”

3. What did you learn from setting up your constellation of a problem & a solution?
“I have got to know about myself better. It helped me to become amazed how much my relationship
with my family has changed, to better side after the first constellation. Also, I become aware of m
emotions, in regards to relationship with my family members. Constellation really helped me find peace
within” – Ligita
“It was really helpful. I found the solution to my problem and I got some ideas how to implement those
ideas into my work.”
“Setting my own constellation I’ve learned that it does not necessarily have to find s final solution to the
problem. Is has shown me that constellation can be a way to understand yourself and your inner feeling
or fears better. You can stand to analyze your situation using this method. It was revealing. I talked to
myself and felt myself better.”

4. What did the coaching conversation in your mother tongue bring to you?
“An appreciation of my own language as a native speaker. It’s great to be able to express one’s own
ideas and thought without the struggle of finding the words in another language other than my own”

5. What did you learn from the solution walk (as a coach and as a client)?
“Solution walk is a nice tool for the students for concentration on their short-term aims. During the
practical (session at school) I am very glad to see that it works effectively.”
“When I have a goal, I should make different steps to achieve the goal. I should try to describe the issue
as a problem or the desired destination. When I imagine my goal, it is good to collect names and
personal details to make it more real because detailed description creates the experience. Visualizing
helps me to see my own progress and in that process I can see myself how I achieve this goals. It is

important to imagine yourself with all emotions, feelings, expressions. As a coach I can help people to
guide how to achieve their own goals. In that process I felt very good because I helped someone.”
“As a client, I learned that when I have a goal I have to find the right steps. By looking back I can be
more confident what I already know and be more prepared for new steps. As A coach I learned what the
right questions are to ask our client. Also I learned how to lead our client to reach their goal. It also
helped to realize that you have to step back and let the client lead their own path. And that I can help by
supporting them, not by my own ideas and thoughts”

6. What did you learn from the dilemma question exercise (as a coach and as a client)?
“As a coach I learned that it can be useful if a coach is not so experiences. It takes a lot of energy and
concentration to find the right questions in the right time. The coach needs to be really careful and not
to manipulate the client and not to give possible solution. As a client I learned that it is interesting know
one simple question can make you think about the problem and possible solution. It can help to the
client to decide/solve his dilemma in his life in a short period even though that same dilemma is I his life
for a long period. It’s also helping in a way to have clear picture about the problem and possible
“I learned that you can find arguments for the positions. You will decide as a client which position is
more important for you or that there could be other opportunities like A, B and A+B on nor A nor B. As a
coach you have to question that well, that the other person could imagine which parts are integrated in
A or Be or even if there is a possibility to combine A and B.”

7. What did the constellation with the family of origins (me-mother-father) bring to you?
“Much more understanding any sympathy for my father”
“I got the opportunity to step in my mom/dad’s shoes and got a sense of what they have done for me
and their position. I felt grateful and more connected with them” – Igor

8. What did you learn from drawing your family system?
“That we have different types and systems of drawing. We have different points of family members. We
have different focus on out important members.”
“After the process, I thought that no matter how your family is, this is your family with all its mistakes,
pros and cons. I noticed how they are the miles of my whole life. If you don’t put your family members
on the right place, it affects all fields of your life like work, marriage, school life, etc. If you trust them,
you can solve the problems easier. I am more aware of my family in the system. In addition, mum is the
light of the system in which she gives her light for each member. I had the chance of putting myself in
their shoes. I looked myself from other points of view and gave myself some advice, suggestions and
compliments.” – Neslihan

9. What did you learn from the working with chairs in setting up the constellation?
“I am more confident now to use this method more and more in my work. If I can help to youngsters,
family members and colleagues to promote better relationships. This methods helps to understand the
situation in which you are now and to look at this situation from other perspective.” – Sintija
10. What did you learn from workshops in the school?
“I learned that the techniques and methods we’ve learned worked well. In the training, out basic topics
were dilemma, coaching, solution walk and constellation. With the group, we used solution walk to see
students’ future plant. At the end it was clear that students have a good goal and try to achieve their
goals. They visualized their goals and walked step by step.”
“It’s easier that I experienced coaching and solution walk in school, because the kids were very open. I
got more confident now that I tried it. To do it in my class at home will be easier now. Both sides – kids
and teachers can learn from it. It is better to do it in small groups. You have to ask clear questions, and
not give advice.”